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Wanting to be approved of —and loved—is as natural as wanting food and shelter.

In fact, more than a problem, a disease. Wanting to really please everyone seems to be the answer, the safe way to inoculate yourself against conflict and confrontation in relationships, whether family, friends, or work. The one who never says no. And it made me ill.

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How was I Wanting to really please going to make it through life with that much stress and anxiety every day? But the alternative seemed impossible. The very idea was enough to bring on a panic attack.

But by now I was literally sick with the constant anxiety and stress over what to say and Wantign, over who to be.

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I had to do Wanting to really please. So I set out to understand why the disease to please had taken over who I really was, why it consumed me. I soon noticed that there were those who seemed immune to this disease. Indeed, many of the people I was constantly trying to please said what they thought, did what they wanted and yet were still popular, loved, respected even. I started taking notes from them, learning ways to stand up for myself, to give a straightforward answer, to say no.

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This week, for instance, I said no to my boss…without passing out in fear! I politely refused to do something I felt strongly was an unfair request. Standing my ground that morning removed a situation that had been hideously stressful for three years. And far from falling into a fire pit of angry responses and reprisals, my Wanting to really please simply respected me the more for speaking out.

Read on to find out why it will never bring you the approval and love you seek and what to do instead to reclaim the real you and cure yourself.

I had always looked up to anyone who had the strength to go out and be themselves. But all too quickly that admiration Reakly turn to adulation. I found myself never speaking up, always going along with whatever they said and did, the eager puppy on their heels. And then, when I looked dispassionately Hot woman wants nsa Bowling Green Kentucky how they really saw me, there was one overriding word that hit me—weak.

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Because those very people you wanted to admire, respect, and love you now reject you, you tell yourself that you cannot be a lovable person.

In desperation you increase your people-pleasing behavior and it becomes a depressing spiral. The gap from the way you act to the way you really want to act widens with every people-pleasing act. This leaves you feeling disappointed and ashamed of who you have become. I would often feel resentful when a friend or colleague was asking for yet one more favor.

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So you never know what they are really thinking either, which leads you to feel less confident in dealing with them. Trying to please everyone is rooted in the fear of rejection.

The irony is, because you end up seeming less attractive and less trustworthy, the very people you are trying to get approval from are often the people who reject you. Maybe not to your Wanting to really please, but in their hearts. Without intimacy, relationships wither and die. And no one wants to be intimate or vulnerable with someone who hides their true feelings. And what happens if you Wanting to really please trying to please two people who do not like each other?

If you ingratiate yourself with one person and offer friendship, how do you now Seriously seeking fat girl that other person without un-pleasing the first? How do you decide who to please?

It ends with up both of them disliking you as they believe you must be betraying them behind their backs. Who wants a two-faced friend? I have found this out for myself: You feel they are taking advantage of you. However, when you are being honest, you also beat yourself up for trying to get them to like you by putting their needs Wanting to really please your own. You imagine they only like you because you say yes to their every whim.

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For instance you Wanting to really please love cooking, maybe making cup cakes. So you offer to cook some as a way of getting love and Wanting to really please. But soon you are either cooking them all the time for one person or, once again, you become the go-to person and you end up cooking them plexse everyone. What used to be an enjoyable pastime now becomes a chore you hate.

Which is how you think they see your relationship with them. But the most important reason to stop trying to please everyone has nothing to do with everyone and everything to do with just one person—you. Trying to rwally everyone is tied into the fear of rejection and the fear of failure.

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Click here to read Wanting to really please. Because you want everyone to like you. Instead you become the go-to person: The one who will always take on more work and stay late. The one who will always say yes. The Disease To Please I know exactly how that feels. And not despite standing up for themselves, but seemingly because of it. Are you trying to please everyone? Are you afflicted with the disease to please?

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You attract people less. You love yourself less. You become more manipulative. You end up with less confidence. You end up with fewer friends. You end up with the worst of both worlds.

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You become more resentful. You hate the things you used to love.

You fail to please the one person that matters. By trying to please everyone, you make both these fears come true. Learning to be the real you, to stand up for yourself, to say no, is the only cure.

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